The Messy Middle is Where Life Happens

Stop treating right now as a waiting room

We’re terrible at being here.

Right now, I mean. This exact moment. We’re either replaying yesterday or rehearsing tomorrow. The present is where we live the least.

Your brain is wired for this, by the way. Supposed to learn from the past (so you don’t repeat mistakes) and plan for the future (so you don’t get eaten by tigers or whatever the modern equivalent is. Credit card debt? Running out of coffee?). Totally normal. Exhausting, though.

Most of us spend our entire lives holding onto how things used to be or rushing toward how we hope they’ll be. The middle gets treated like a waiting room.

Except real life happens in the middle.

I wrote this sitting at my kitchen bench in San Diego, unemployed and chronically ill, convinced I was a spectacular failure. Trying to capture what it means to actually live in the present moment instead of just surviving it.

Right Now
is the space between what is
and what’s next.

Not the end,
not the beginning.
The in-between,
the quiet bridge between the two.

It’s the messy middle.

Most people rush through this space,
clinging to what was,
racing toward what could be.

But right now is where growth happens,
where awareness becomes action,
and reflection becomes resilience.

To live right now
is to notice what’s here
without needing it to be different.

Right now is enough.

We’re always waiting. For things to be resolved, healed, successful, sorted. Waiting for some future version of ourselves who has it all figured out before we give ourselves permission to live.

That future person doesn’t exist.

The only moment you can do anything about is this one. Can’t change the past, no matter how many times you replay it. Can’t control the future, no matter how much you plan. But right now? This moment? This is where your power lives.

Living in the present means noticing what’s hard without trying to fix it first. The good, the terrible, the unresolved. All of it sits here whether you ignore it or face it.

Right now, in whatever your life is doing today, that’s enough to start.

Maybe you’re in your own messy middle. Job gone. Body failing. Relationship bending. Grief that won’t lift.

What does “right now” look like for you? Reply and tell me.